Coping with the Death of a Loved One
Death is one of the realities of life. Accepting the existence of death can make us prepared to handle grief and bereavement that comes along with death. Even if it may sound inappropriate to talk about dying, it can actually help us understand its mystery and when it is time to go, or if you loved ones has to leave, we can face it death with full understanding and acceptance.
Bereavement is a natural emotion. But prolonged grief can be a psychological issue that one should get out of as soon as he can. Understanding you emotions can help you overcome grief and to continue with your normal life. Grief is an emotional process. The death of a person is one of the most common causes of grief. It comprises of joyous memories as well as sorrowful thoughts when one of our loved ones passed away. Grief roots from the happy memories and realizing that you can no longer share and create moments with the person who has already gone away.
The process of bereavement is a common human occurrence. It may take a lot of time and effort to get out of grief. Not only can grief affect you psychologically, it can also be spiritually and physically demanding. Different people handle grief differently. One person may try to hide his feelings and others may grieve openly. Grieving patterns differ and are often dictated by one’s character, coping capacity and the relationship you share with the person who met his death.
One of the greatest discomforts that a person is faced with during the time of death is the feeling of grief. During this time of our lives, it is important that our closest friends and family are there to guide us through these tough times and be with us for comfort and company.
The Process of Grief in Relation with Death
Grief comes naturally during the death of a loved. Dying can be something that we fear. And just like anything that we fear, we eventually have to face it. When this time comes it is important to be prepared. Understanding the effects and consequences of dying can allow us to handle grief in a more capable manner.
Rando’s Six R’s can help you understand the stage of bereavement. It is a model that illustrates the grief process and how a person can adjust and cope up with the death of a loved one.
First off, the process of grief begins with the Recognition of Loss. We should be able to understand and accept the death and recognize that it had indeed occurred. A person can enter a stage of denial but he should eventually accept the reality of death.
The second stage deals with Reaction. This is an outcry of loss. Some people take death differently. Some people yell, curse, and even collapse. All of these are signs of emotions that naturally come with death.
During the time of dying, Recollecting and Re-experiencing is a significant stage. This comprises of the memories that we had with the one we have lost. These may be parties that you went to together, summer vacations, the holidays or everyday moments you kept in your memory.
The fourth stage of grief is to Relinquish. This is the stage where you should be able to put the loss of a loved behind you and accept the changes that it can bring to your life. It is the time of acceptance.
After accepting the fact that your loved one has gone away, then its time to Readjust and move on with your life. Readjusting may mean a lot of things. It can mean that you have to change your lifestyle, move in another place, or do whatever it takes to continue with your life.
Finally you would have to Reinvest. It’s like re-entering an entirely new world where you can begin new relationships and accept what has happened with an open mind. This is the end of your grief and the start of fresh beginnings.